The Unexpected Wave

Every once in awhile I get hit with a wave that seems to appear out of nowhere. It is not necessarily that it is a big wave. It is just an unexpected wave and because it is unexpected, it feels colder, takes your breath away, and leaves you shivering in it's wake.

That is what happened yesterday when the Ex posted a comment on a comment on one of my sister's Facebook updates. The comment was rude and humiliating and after reading it, I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I have taken many, many precautions to limit, if not outright prevent, any contact with the Ex so coming across his comment in my sister's conversation thread was very unexpected.

My sister, the beautiful soul that she is, immediately deleted the comment and removed the Ex as a Facebook friend -- the equivalent of wrapping a warm, thick towel around me. It helped to calm my rapid heart beat and to feel loved and cared for. Within a short time, I was feeling calmer and very grateful for my sister's rapid rescue.

It is not the first time the Ex has tried to humiliate me in front of others. The bigger the forum, the better he likes it. I can only feel sorry for all of the friends I used to have before the divorce who are forced to listen to his rants and complaints about me. It will be six years this November since I filed for divorce and one would think that it had happened just last month.

So I know that in the future that there will be other unexpected waves of his bitterness and negativity that will wash over me. There is not much I can do to prevent it or prepare for it other than to just be aware of the possibility and the likelihood of it. But even though those waves will come, I know that my husband and my family will be right there waiting with big, thick towels.

~ Niecey

What is Wave Dancing?

I am sure that anyone who has come across this blog is curious as to what I mean by Dancing on Waves. I will do my best to explain.

I first came across the phrase "dance on top of the ocean waves" while I was reading "It's Your Time " by Joel Osteen (2009 Free Press). He is describing a rowboat "a very nice boat made to dance on top of the ocean waves..." (pg. 15) and my mind's eye envisioned a rowboat blithely bouncing on one wave after another. It got me to thinking.

I thought to myself, life is like the waves. Sometimes the waves are calm and everything floats on along peacefully. Sometimes the waves are big. Sometimes they are scary. Just like life.

Which makes me the rowboat. I am a beautiful (I upgraded myself from "very nice") rowboat made to dance on top of the waves. I should view the ups and the downs of life as waves, and just dance on top of them.

So this blog will be about my beautiful rowboat's ability to dance on the waves of life. I am sure there will be times when I will take on a little water and times of peaceful tranquility. My challenge will be to keep the peace within while the storm rages without.

~ Niecey

Believe

You have to believe

in happiness

It isn't an outward thing;

The spring

never makes the song, I guess,

As much as the song

makes the spring.

~ taken from "Hello Sunshine! Charming and Delightful Proverbs to Warm the Heart"

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